Have you ever heard about the saying “The world is turning and you must turn with it.”1 Well if you haven’t, then you should always consider this saying every time you are stuck with the same problem over and over again. But first things first, you must understand that problems and trials are very important part of your life, you won’t be who you are today without them, you will never be stronger and better tomorrow without them. You will always be in the same position as you were yesterday. So be glad you have them, be grateful you got a lot of them, it only goes to show that God loves you so much that he wants to make you a better person and that he believes in your capabilities. Although you can’t remove the fact that these trials and problems are hard, time consuming and painful, you can always take them with ease. How? It is simply done so by looking on the brighter rather than the darker side, by looking on the good rather than the bad after effects, by simply focusing on your dreams rather than the trial itself. Think of long turn rather that short effects because the only truth you will find is that problems creates opportunity, while opportunity creates success.
We all encounter different problems and trials as we go on with our life, everyone does! I mean who doesn’t? But a big problem lies when we encounter almost the same problem over and over again but what’s even worse is that we offer the same solution to the very same problem, it’s insane
So why are we stuck on the same problem? The answer would be simple; it’s that we haven’t really found the solution to the real problem. All we have figured out is not but a mere anaesthesia to the hurts that we feel and on worst case scenario we only cure the symptoms and results of the problems and not the problem itself. A very good analogy of this is that when we have a cold. Our body temperature becomes high and we feel dizzy, and then what will be your immediate remedy? You will take in a medicine so that you can feel relief and your temperature down not knowing that the very reason why you body temperature was high is because that you body system is fighting the virus infecting your body which burns a lot of your energy and that you were dizzy because they don’t function the way they were used to. Hence we fight not the virus that caused the fever but the symptoms and effects or in our case the cure to the virus itself. Yes it’s true that it’s good to take in medicine when we feel sick, they relieve the pain but ask your doctor first! They should know better than you do especially in those fields.
By this time you must be asking yourself; with what all this blogger is saying, so how can I solve my problems and not get stuck with the same problems over and over again! (Well, that’s why you are still reading this crazy article) how you say? If you have read between the lines you must have figured it out. But in case you still haven’t. The answer is simple (but very complicated), first find the core problem and then solve it. That’s just it!
Yes, it is the simple answer, but you will find it very hard. You see finding the core problem is like finding the needle in the grass field. Not because it is small, but because it blends in just right to its surroundings. It will be very hard to tell if that is the core or not because every problem will seem to be your core problem. But don’t worry, because when you have a magnet. You can easily find the needle! Well in your case your magnet is yourself. You must first seek yourself, understand yourself, and be with yourself. Never ever blame others for the problem because when you do, you also gave away the power to solve your problem, you gave away your power to grow further, you give away your magnet to search for your needle. When you seek deeply of yourself, you will find why do you have certain problems, why can’t you solve them, and how it turned out that way.
And If you think finding it is already hard, what's even harder will be how you will solve it. you see, you will use a lot of your time just to solve it, and what's worst is that if you have found out the the core of your problems is already your habit, it will be very hard to change it. But don't worry there is a way. all you have to do is to remember that only habit can subdue another habit. then form your new habits according to your choice (which should be a cure and will not make things worst). stick with it, discipline yourself that you would do that good new habit,trust it to God and then of you go. Sooner or later that day will come that you found yourself anew. and those problems that keeps repeating gone.
PS. research shows that habit is form when an act is repeated everyday for at least 3 months
And If you think finding it is already hard, what's even harder will be how you will solve it. you see, you will use a lot of your time just to solve it, and what's worst is that if you have found out the the core of your problems is already your habit, it will be very hard to change it. But don't worry there is a way. all you have to do is to remember that only habit can subdue another habit. then form your new habits according to your choice (which should be a cure and will not make things worst). stick with it, discipline yourself that you would do that good new habit,trust it to God and then of you go. Sooner or later that day will come that you found yourself anew. and those problems that keeps repeating gone.
PS. research shows that habit is form when an act is repeated everyday for at least 3 months
